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No, they cannot legally refuse to allow the child to visit you. Also and more importantly, you have legal custody of the child and the mother is in no legal position to impose restrictions on your access to the child. You can make things difficult for her by calling the Police and demanding that she hand the child back to you. You may also file complaint against her with the Court in Virginia for interfering with your custody of the child.