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You can file to involuntarily terminate mother's paternal rights. You will have to prove that mother is unfit and has provided no support for in excess of 6 months for child. This would then accomplish your goal of obtaining SS benefits.
There is no exception on a Social Security all that I'm aware of. The only option is to file for an involuntary termination of parental rights.