Thank you for your question. Please permit me to assist you with your concerns.
My apologies to you on your situation, Walter. I will try my best to answer, but it was a bit confusing to read the facts and if I missed any, please let me know and I will help clarify.
1 - Should I try to see the judge alone?
No, you should not. With respect, going to see the judge can place you at a disadvantage because you are going to be held to the same standard as would an attorney. And that may be difficult when you have multiple issues--you'd need to know what to say, when to say it, what is relevant and really important, or when it may be best to keep something secondary.
2 - the house will be abandoned this weekend why can't I get in there and sell it?
Because legally it belongs to your ex, based on the court order.
I can pay for it if I don't live there! It's a beautiful home my life's work! I'am broke can I do think on my own/By myself?
You cannot, you'd need a court order, and for that I would urge you to retain counsel.
How evil can a person you loved and lived with for 21 years just because you broke youo back! I pray to GOD this will get me another home at 58 if I could get a lawyer I may have a chance or go for it and go file for a meet with judge? Save all kinds of papers over the years have pictures and letters do I have hope because she thinks she knows all? (Walter)
I would suggest browsing the listings at www.avvo.com and www.martindale.com. There you can search by fees, location, experience, and expertise. Unfortunately divorces are quite often the most 'evil' and acrimonious issues between parties, so what you are describing is unfortunate but not something that isn't known.