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If mother's illness has progressed to a point where she is not able to manage her affairs, then one of the children could file a petition for guardianship in the local probate court to have mother declared legally incompetent and have the petitioner appointed as guardian.
As part of the case, the petitioner would obtain medical testimony or records from her doctors stating that they feel that in their professional opinion, she is unable to manage her own affairs at this point and needs a guardian. The judge will appoint a "guardian ad litem" for mother who will represent her and compile his own report and there is also usually an independent investigator who prepares a report for the judge.
Assuming that her doctors agree that she needs a guardian, the judge should end up appointing the petitioner and then they can essentially take over the management of mother's financial and medical needs to ensure that she is properly taken care of.
However, this is not really something that a non attorney wants to undertake without the help of an experienced family law or elder law attorney.
That is the issue here...if you are acting in mother's best interests, then the judge is going to see that even if she is fighting the guardianship. It is hard for a parent to acknowledge that their mental faculties are diminished and that they need to have someone put in charge of their life. So it is something that you may have to force on her because it is in her best interests. Right now she is a potential target for scammers or people who might want to take advantage of her because legally she could give away all her assets or allow someone to steal them and nothing would stop her.
But it doesn't matter if she contests it if the doctors agree that she needs a guardian, and any court investigation confirms it..
Ok, then in a situation like this, it would require other independent doctors to review her medical records as part of any guardianship case and then interview her. So it can happen, it is just easier if her doctors agree to assist voluntarily.
So you don't necessarily have to have her doctor willing to help, as they can be bypassed if they refuse to do so and can also be subpoenaed in any case to testify under oath as to their medical opinion as to her mental status..
You are very welcome. It is a tough position to be in for you here, but it sounds like you are doing the right thing in trying to take care of her interests..