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Legally, a family caregiver can be paid for the care they provide. If you were power of attorney and you had control over your mom's estate and you were performing duties for the estate and you charged no more than you would have had to pay someone else to perform those tasks, then it is not illegal.
It is going to be up to you to provide proof that what you paid yourself to do the tasks you previously paid someone else to do was the same amount of money. The issue with being accused of financial abuse is that the person in charge of the money was not using the money properly and was taking money they were not entitled to take. So if you can show what you took was no more than you were paying others and show you were doing the work yourself because of the circumstances and you were indeed providing the care you said you were performing, then that is not sufficient grounds to find you guilty of any financial abuse.
I do not know why you cannot find a local elder law attorney to represent you in this, but they are the ones who typically deal with these cases unless adult protection wants to charge you with financial abuse, in which case you would need a criminal defense attorney at that point.
If she is making known false statements against you, once you prove you did not do these things, you could then seek to sue her for malicious prosecution for her making these false statements against you and seek the money damages for what she has put you through.