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Legally, without a court order to the contrary, if your husband has the child during his visitation time, he can refuse to allow you to come and see the child during that time. Based on the situation, you can ask the court to include a right in the court visitation order for you to at least call, if not go see your daughter during the time he is at work when he has her.
As far as your accounts, if they are marital funds and marital accounts he cannot keep you from your funds and the court will order that those funds be divided.
He can challenge your disability or try to, but legally if you have a doctor testify as to your disability and inability to work, he would not succeed, as the court gives more credibility in most cases to the treating doctor. If you are unable to work, the court can order him to pay you spousal support in addition to any child support.
Thank you for your reply.Without a court order in place, your husband is correct I am afraid. He does not have to allow you to come to his home to see your daughter when he has custody, even if he is at work.So you have to go to court and file for a temporary order of custody and visitation if you want to change this situation, as without a court order your husband can refuse you the right to come to his home to see your child when he has you.
You DO NOT need to remove your name from the account, even if he is paying support. You do not remove your name from anything until the court orders you to do so. The laws say that the "status quo" is to be maintained until the divorce is ordered.
So you need to get into court and you need to get court orders in place if he is acting this way.
Thank you for your reply.
It is truly why you need to have an attorney involved and get into court to file motions for temporary support, custody and visitation and get orders in place.
You could have refused to allow him to see her without a court order, yes.
You did not legally have to allow him to take her as long as she was in your custody. You need to get a lawyer if he is acting this way, it is the only way to stop it. You are not stupid, you were trying to work things out in an adult manner for the best interests of everyone. You did not make any mistakes that cannot be fixed by you getting a lawyer and getting this into court and getting orders in place to set the parameters on how things will work to avoid his bullying in the future.