I understand what your intent was, and that is why I didn't say you were trying to commit insurance fraud. But I am trying to tell you why your attorney is refusing to convey your offer - he ethically cannot do so.
I am not sure what other information I can provide you at this juncture.
If you are unhappy with your attorney, you have a right to be represented by the counsel of your choice, and you can hire a new attorney that you feel more aggressively represents your interests. Before changing attorneys, do ask prospective attorneys for their intended course of action (what do they plan to do), and how long they anticipate their proposed course of action taking. Be aware that they cannot force your wife to agree to anything, so their evaluation and course of action is an estimate, but you can get an idea of what their strategies would be if you did change attorneys.
You may find that your attorney is taking a reasonable and prudent course of action, and that like many individuals stuck in litigation (family law
or otherwise) you are simply a victim of the lengthy judicial process and there is not much of a cure for it, and no quick remedy. But I do encourage you to speak to other attorneys, there is no harm in getting a second (or third, or fourth) opinion.
You can find local attorneys using the State Bar Association directory:
, or private directories such as www.AVVO.com
; or www.Martindale.com
(I personally find www.AVVO.com to be the most user friendly).