Thank you for the opportunity to assist you.
Q) Can I make requests to the judge on spousal support or anything else or do I have to keep quiet?
You can make these request to the judge; you do NOT (and should not) have to remain quiet.
Check these pages for good self-help information and forms that you might find useful:
They will give you some idea of the divorce process, what to expect, etc.
For spousal support, the basic formula is that the paying spouse (your ex) must have the ability to pay and you must have need. So, look at your respective incomes. If your income is significantly less than your ex's income, I'd ask for spousal support to help you get back on your feet once the divorce is finalized. The support may only lost a certain amount of time; months or years is pretty common nowadays. Rarely is spousal support ordered for lifetime, and it's rarely enough for someone to live on anymore.
You're also entitled to an equitable (fair) share of the marital assets and debts. So, make a list of all the things you and your ex acquired during the marriage
. I mean major things like a house, a boat, a camper, a car, etc.
Figure out the value of each piece of property and how much is owed on each. Subtract those numbers (the value minus money owed) to get the value. Property includes things like retirement accounts, investments, etc. Try to split the value of all the property between you fairly. There may not be a way to split everything evenly, so some things might have to be sold and you and your ex will split what's left after paying off any debt on the property.
You didn't mention children. If you have minor children, the judge will have to decide who gets custody (where the kids live) and who has visitation
. Usually the parents who gets visitation pays the other custodial parent child support
, since the custodial parent has the children the majority of the time. Child support is figured based on the number of children, the parties' respective income, and other factors like health insurance.
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