Thanks for the clarification. I don't think there is an ethical issue here.
An attorney is forbidden from speaking to another party who is represented. So your husband's attorney can't speak to the mother, assuming she has an attorney, without that attorney's permission. However, the children are not a party, although obviously the whole lawsuit is effectively about them.
The court order (I'm guessing here) forbids the parties from discussing legal, financial or medical issues in front of the children. But that prohibition most likely does NOT include other people, including an attorney. The court wouldn't have the legal authority to put that in a parenting plan or temporary order
. The court would have to issue a gag order to prevent an attorney from talking to the children.
I agree with you, this is uncomfortable and seems a bit weird. The problem is whether or not it's unethical. I don't think so.
Check out this page for more information:
At the bottom there is a phone number. You might make a call and ask whether or not the attorney's actions violate the WV ethics rules.
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