Hello, thank you in advance for helping me with my question. Sorry for al the "extras" included.
A few weeks ago I posted a question regarding modification of a current visitation
agreement. However, my husband informed me he is not pursuing a modification in visitation, but rather in physical and legal custody, and will- in fact- go back to court.
I do not want this. AT ALL. Frankly stated- I would pay money I don't have to stop this.
But hear me out first.
Although I support my husband's role as a father, the last time he went through the court system, not only did he get royally screwed based on false allegations, but the resulting stress, surrounding drama, and the extent to which these allegations went, left my husband in such shambles HE committed himself to suicide watch. I was left to deal with the emotional mess, as well as, deal with the mother
's attacks that went beyond their parenting and on to our marriage
and me as an individual (I was even accused of sexually abusing the girls- thankfully investigation found this to be bogus).
Therefore, I DO NOT WANT HIM GOING BACK TO COURT. To his and my credit, we both sought professional help and all things are good.
The problem is this: my husband has attempted to increase his visitation unofficially with the mother and not once has she agreed. Not a single time. However, there were three separate instances in which she needed for him to care for the girls, but unfortunately he could not because it was too soon to call out of work. I refuse to stay with the girls by myself for fear of history repeating itself. When asked her reasons for denying any sort of extra visitation, her answer is simple: "I don't have to" or, when she is in a really good mood, "I don't want to."
My question is, are there any strategies he could employ to increase his visitation? If she flat out continues to refuse, is court really the only option? She will literally not agree to anything beyond the minimal visitation he gets now, and actually challenges him to go back to court stating he will have to get a judge involved because he will see those girls "over [her] dead body."