we were never married. we just signed a joint legal custody agreement AFTER we established child support. And I do pay a large portion of childcare. I have asked her for documentation showing the amount she paid for the previous babysitter, as well as start and end dates. She provided copies of a sheet that laid out price and date, but it didnt look official. When i asked her to provide me the telephone number of the baby sitter, she gave me a non working number, i therefore was unable to recive offical documentation from the baby sitter herself
the issue now is that i believe my daughter has been under the watch of her grandmothers in home day care for longer than the mother has told me... she claimed she began with the grandmother october 4th... 2 - she provided me a contract that was $1000, and verbally stated was $750, but now has backtracked. 3 - the mother my daughter and grandmother live under the same roof, it seems fishy that the grandmother can watch the child and fluctuate the price up and down, in addition to that, how do I know the mother is really paying the grandmother the stated amount, she can simply be giving her a check and the grandmother providing a recept and not truly ever be recieving that amount
ok got it
so even if she provides proof that she is giving her mother checks, the mother can be lying as well. Also, is it legal for her to have the child be watched by the grandmother when they all live in the same home?
sorry for the length and repetitiveness
wow. this is disheartening. she is blatantly going up and down in price and all but verbally told me that she isnt paying her mom the full price in the contract
it just seems like this shouldnt be allowed. but im an idealist i guess. she now has full control on the price of child support. They can decide she is going to charge $1400 and id be obligated to accept an increase in support
*if she goes to court for a modification, that is.
got it. well, with regards XXXXX XXXXX She did send me documentation showing the $1000, i have no proof that she verbally stated $750.
Got it! so just so I leave this discussion fully aware of my rights:
she can make decisions unilaterally as to where she attends daycare, school, etc despite us having joint legal custody.
2 - can I request that the previous baby sitter provide documentation of price and dates attended - through the court (the mother is providing what appear to be forged docs)?
3 - I may file joint physical custody as my daughter gets a bit older. If we do have joint physical custody, who provides financially for day care? is it split? or does the child then go to two seperate daycare locations if I dont want her going to her grandmothers/mom home for child care?
with joint physical (50/50 split) wouldnt child support be canceled for both parties since physical obligation is split?
wow. well she makes about 7,000 more than I do, and i plan to request the time be exact.
ah got it. Would you recommend I hire a lawyer if I decide to seek joint physical custody?
thanks. two more questions with joint physical custody, would the parent with the higher income pay an amount similar to what they would pay if there was not joint physical custody and they did not have 50/50 time spent?
and how would child care be divided up? Im not sure youll be able to answer that last question with limited info, so forgie me
ahh got it.
well. thank you roger for your help
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