Hello my name is XXXXX XXXXX I'm so thankful for websites like this that make it so convenient for me to achieve peace of mind. So I am 20 almost 21, and my soon-to-be-ex wife is 19. We have a 9 month old son together and are about to have a major divorce.
Now about myself, I am living alone with my own car and business and attending college. I repair/sell computers and cell phones and have a steady income of about $3,000 a month.
I am on Probation for having a little marijuana, I started probation in May and will be off in February. Its a 9 month probation and I only dropped dirty once. They told me it will stay off my record as long as I complete probation.
2 weeks ago my wife and I had a crazy night with her trying to kill herself while I was driving, and me cutting her in self defense. Well I got arrested that night and spent 2 days in jail and later the charges were dropped and the detective forced her into therapy.
That is a pretty bad start but now her turn, about my wife: I have called the police on her in the last 12 months about 8 times. I just got to take a look at the police reports and they were despressing, leaving out key details.
I called once because she threatened me with a knife (police report left that out, just said we had a dispute) I called again because she sent me about 400 texts in an hour going "BOOM BITCH" and harassing me. Detective called me the next day and I told him everything is fine now.
I called because she had broken into my house( i know we are married) and the cops went to her house and she admitted to breaking in and taking a few things she thought she owned. Detective called me the next day and asked if I wanted to press charges, me loving my wife I told him no.
Her dad called the cops to try to find her after I told him she was trying to kill herself. Cops called me, I let them know she was at my house, and I brought her to them. They determined she was fine ,BUT that night she crashed her car into my house ( hit the garbage bin) and tried swallowing dish soap before she threw it up. Things that I didn't tell the police in order to keep her out of a suicide watch program or something.
She has cheated on me while we were married but the only proof I managed to get is some guy texting her at 2 am trying to meet up, I video recorded her phone and pulled up that text. She never replied to that specific text but was talking to the guy.
She lives with her parents.
Now I was extremely discouraged after I read the police reports because key details were left out, but I do have many witnesses , including family members, that have seen her crazy side. I also have some of her texts saying " you're never going to see your son" and others with extreme, EXTREME, profanity.
I feel that all hope is lost and if this is taken to trial, I will lose without a doubt. My biggest concern is for me to retain ongoing custody of my son after the divorce. I'm not expecting anyone to know the exact outcome, but should I even bother hiring a lawyer or am I just losing my son due to the probation and cutting her with a knife ( in self defense because she tried, and partially succeeded, steering my car into a wall while I was driving, and injuring me with documented bruises during the drive)? Please advise., and thank you for your counsel.