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Good morning. I certainly understand the situation and your concern. If the father wants to keep "paperwork" out of this, then he will need to start cooperating with you and coming to an agreement. Seeing how he does not want to reduce anything to writing, he likely is not serious of trying to work this out with you. As such, you would need to proceed through the court and have custody or visitation
awarded by the Judge. As the mother, you certainly do have legal rights to the children and he should not preventing you from exercising them. With that being said, you would want to file a motion with the court, requesting custody or visitation. Moreover, if the boys are afraid of him and there is violence in the home, you need to tell them to call 911 when it happens and also use this as evidence that it is not in their best interest to remain with the father, when you go before the court. If the father is abusive towards them, you should consider filing an emergency motion with the court.
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