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A U.S. Court doesn't have the ability to transfer a case to another country. However, if the children are living with you in the Netherlands, and you have never lived in the U.S. you have the ability to ask the judge in the U.S. to dismiss the case. That can be accomplished by hiring an attorney in Missouri, although you may have to travel there for one hearing. Essentially, the argument is that the U.S. Courts don't have jurisdiction over you, a Dutch citizen living in the Netherlands. The Missouri judge also doesn't have authority to decide where your children should live, if they're with you in another country.
A good place to find a local attorney in the U.S. is http://www.martindale.com
. The Missouri Bar Association also has a referral service that might be helpful.http://www.mobar.org/lrs/clients.htm
Once the Missouri case is dismissed, you can file for divorce in your local court. You may also want to talk to your Dutch attorney about whether it could benefit you to file sooner. One situation where it might help is if your husband is likely to try to take the children to the U.S..
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