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My ex husband and I have Joint legal/Joint physical. He is getting out of the military and moving 4 hours away and recently filed that he has primary custody and can move our 4 year old with him. I was a stay at home mom and went back to work when we got divorced. Our parenting plan has worked PERFECTLY until he decided he was going to move 4 hours away. He never takes her to the dr, I am the one who takes off when he is sick. I got served yesterday and they are requesting I pay his legal fees and that I need to produce my medical records, whom I have slept with and other absurd things.
Response 1: Of course, you are going to object to those ridiculous. They are irrelevant and immaterial to the question of custody. You cannot be expected to pay for his Attorney's fees when he is the one bringing this ridiculous case for modification and when he has resources to pay for his own Attorney. Nevertheless, you need to make sure to respond to the Discovery Requests and object to them on the ground that the requests are baseless, irrelevant, and immaterial.
Our daughter has lived in GA for 3 years now and is in a good private school. Nothing has changed except I took a better paying job that is Mon-Fri. I take her to all extra activities. How likely is a judge to grant him full custody and let her move? I have no family here but am staying due to my job. His family is very wealthy.
Response 2: It is very unlikely. The Court CANNOT take away your custody just because he requests it. There must be a showing that you are an unfit parent before the Court can take away your rights. Under the circumstances that you described, I do not see how a Court can take away your rights.
In a custody case, the Court would make a decision based on what is in the best interests of the child by looking at the living arrangement of the parties to the custody dispute, their lifestyles, associations, parenting skills, etc. If the Court finds after reviewing these factors that the child would be better off living with both of you, the Court would denies his Complaint for Modification of Custody and leave custody status quo. Otherwise, the Court would rule in his favor. So, it is very important that you tell the Court any and all reasons why custody should remain the same, just as you did in your narrative here; any witnesses should be brought to the Court to testify. Remember that the Court can only make decision based on the evidence presented to the Court. Also, since he is the one moving four hours away, you should request that visitation schedule be changed and the father be charged for any expenses of visitation between him and the child.