It is actually quite a bit more complicated. He has been living with his ex's maother and family for several years and they have been helping him, because he has never made enough to pay the support! His ex-wife is mildly retarded and he is socially challenged. When they married, I was concerned should they have a child, but her parents encouraged it. We believe he is undiagnosed Asperger's syndrome and has great difficulty with day to day responsibilities. He had no clue what was happening to him when they went through divorce and so her parents, once again, "guided" him through the whole divorce, giving him advice. They have all lived in the same household for years and in essence are throwing him out now because the couple decided they were going to end the trial reconcilliation. They are still technically divorced. Again, my wife and I do not know where to turn. He is 37 years old and is planning to move back to Indiana with us to live, but I am concerned that he will end up oweing the rest of his life.
We need counsel. Do not know where to begin. Thanks for your reply.
Thank you very much. We will get an attorney for him. I have one final question, please. Understand that we (our son, his mother and I) all agree he needs to financially support the child, but at the wages he makes, we simply do not understand how he can ever get caught up, as he has not even made enough to cover his own basic needs, which is why they have allowed him to live basically rent free in their home. His ex-wife has never worked and quite possibly never will....does she have any obligation? Will the child support arrearage continue to climb until the child reaches age 18? This will total over $100,000! We love them and it is our grandson, but this seems extreme for our son, who likely will never recover financially, not to mention will likely lose any motivation to ever work again. It is such a mess.
Thank you so much for your help. I will rate you a 5 and will tell you it was well worth the relatively small fee.
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