1. Yes, it could hurt you to leave house.
2. If you intend to retain home it could be a more difficult once you have left. You also dont know what he will do, ie. change locks and move all your things out or worse not give you your a portion of the possession or the children's belongings.
What if I have in writing that he will vacate the house upon our return?
What about my part time job?
3. You should retain your employment until you find new employment. You are not responsible for his actions and should not feel ashamed for his behavior.
4. If he states in writing he will vacate it would improve your position, but it in not a court order and therefore not a guaranty he will follow it.
Your most important issue now is finances and keeping that job.
You should also file for child and APL/Child Support immediately.
How do I file, do I need a lawyer ASAP?
You should also file for child support and APL/Spousal support immediately.
What is APL?
It is permitted to file for support on your own but I would recommend hiring an attorney.
APL stands for Alimony Pendente Lite.
anything else I should know or do?
It is a temporary form of alimony that is in place during the pendency of the divorce. It is 30% of the difference between your salaries after he pays child support.
It was agreed that I would take care of the household in order that he could work, ie 70 hours a weekd
You also want him to find new employment as soon as possible see he can contribute financially.
Go through Domestic Relations for support you dont want to do a private agreement even if it is for the same amount.
Good Luck. Hope this helps.
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