Hi - my name is XXXXX XXXXX I'm a Family Law
litigation attorney. Thanks for your question, but I'm sorry for your troubles with this. I'll be glad to assist.
IF there is no custody or visitation order in place, then you have just as much right to see your children as the mother
. ONLY a court order can restrict or limit those rights. That said, the problem you run into is if you go to the mother's home without permission, you could be charged with trespassing, and if things get heated, you are putting yourself into a situation where a domestic violence
charge could be filed. So, it's really not a good idea to go over un-announced EVEN THOUGH you have as much right to the child as the mother.
As for what to do, you can file an emergency petition with the local court where the children live to establish a temporary visitation order that should allow you to exercise visitation with the children ASAP. Then, the court can establish a visitation/custody order later - - when there's time to consider the facts - including distance between the parents.
However, in order to get immediate relief to see the children, you're going to need to file an emergency petition for visitation.
I hope this answers your question, but if you need something further, please don't hesitate to ask. Thanks.