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She is right to be worried, because she was supposed to report he DV case to her probation officer. In most cases unless the DV occurred in front of the children, the courts will not take the children from her unless she is jailed for the DV charges or for a probation violation. She needs to come clean with the PO I am afraid and take the ex's leverage away from him and she needs to continue pursuing to see her kids. If the ex would not give her the children as the court order states the she needs to file a motion for an order to show cause for contempt against him to show she does have an interest in seeing the children and is fighting to get them and not abandoning them.
She is going to have to face the DV issue with the PO I am afraid if she wants to avoid the ex claiming abandonment and seeking full custody.
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