Thank you for clarifying.
Initially, I just want to point out that you are incorrect in saying that you have no right to open bank statements. if your name is XXXXX XXXXX account, you have as much right to open statements and read them as he does. You also have a right to set up an online profile, log in, and download past statements so you can see exactly what is going on with your money. Make no mistake - regardless of who is depositing the money in that account, if your name is XXXXX XXXXX it's still your money. You have a right to withdraw it or to know where it's going. Make copies of everything - you may need it for court. Download and save documents and store them in a safe place.
In a divorce, each spouse is entitled to roughly 1/2 of all marital assets. If he's hiding money, you're still entitled to half of it if you can show where it's going. It doesn't matter if he's opening accounts that aren't in your name - you are still entitled to half the money. That also includes half of any retirement accounts, savings accounts, cars, etc. if he is spending money on a mistress, you can ask the judge to order him to repay the marital estate for monies spent on her, which could mean you would end up with more than half. In a situation where a spouse gives up a career to raise marital children, you will likely be entitled to spousal support
, at least for a few years until you have time to get back on your feet.
The parent who retains custody of the children has a right to seek child support
. As the primary caregiver, you will likely be able to get ongoing custody. Child support may continue for your children if they are disabled to the point that they are unable to support themselves. It's also likely that a judge would allow you to remain in the marital home with the children if you have custody.
The court has all of the forms you need to initiate a divorce available online. You are not required to have a lawyer file them for you. Here are the forms and instructions.http://www.flcourts.org/gen_public/family/forms_rules/
However, if your husband has substantial assets that he is keeping from you, it may be possible to get the judge to order that he help pay for your attorney's fees. A local attorney may be willing to draft that motion for you, with the agreement that he is paid after you get the money from your husband.
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