Thank you for your follow up questions
1 - If you have never worked, are not able to work, have no skills, etc then your support is going to be higher and permanent. But if you are able to work, have worked, are employed then your support will be less and generally granted on a temporary basis until you can get better employment.
So if the Stipulation is granting you anything in the way of support for a permanent basis, I suggest that is a good thing
Support is always based on the need of one party and the ability to pay it by the other. There are no specific guidelines for spousal support as there is child support.
However, you may click onto this link for the VA Code that governs Spousal Support
2 - I thought you had said you requested a postponement so you could get legal counsel. If you have not agreed to anything, then I suggest that you will want to be at the hearing or have local counsel there for you or the requests made by your spouse could be granted in default of a non response and non appearance.
3 - I suggest that you can use the VA Bar Association for a legal referral service
1-800-552-7977 and consider having a local attorney assist you - and they can file the proper information to have this matter postponed for you.
It is not too late to have a VA Attorney assist you and make sure that all your rights are covered. If you have been married 17 years, you want to be sure that you are properly represented in any pension that your spouse may be entitled to. Additionally, your share of any joint assets. There is a lot to be considered and that is why I suggest you consider having a local VA attorney to assist you