Visitation of my child by ex spouse and child support:
I need to know a few things for the state of Arizona.
I am recently divorced and have a 6year old child.
I have sole custody of her but the ex has in the decree that he has visitation for Mondays from 3pm to 7:30pm.
My ex called me today asking to have our daughter on Father's day for visitation without me present which has never happened. The decree does allow him to do that but I know how bad that is for the kid.
If I refuse I could get in trouble and all of the things I have documented probably would not be honored in my favor by a judge.
For the first year of the divorce I let him come over and visit her whenever he felt like it but I was always present. I did that to make things flow and for us to get along.
As of a month ago he stopped speaking to me and coming over. Now he keeps asking if he can take her for a full day or even overnight. I understand that I should not have agreed to allow visitation without supervision but I was so much wanting an uncontested divorce due to time and cost.
I have been documenting how this alcoholic man has should up for visits under the influence and cannot mange his own life.
He drives an unpaid vehicle that they are looking to repo and is uninsured and has not paid title and registration.
He socializes with very aggressive, rude, perverted uneducated guys that would be a threat to my child.
He is totally reckless and unsafe. He was recently homeless and phoneless.
He has left scary drunken messages on my voice mail that I saved. I cannot communicate with him since he goes against everything I say for the best interest of our child.
He bullies me and raises his voice and is mean and scary. He has not kept me current on his current living location and address as stated by the divorce decree to do.
He has not paid the required health insurance for her either which is 56% of cost.
I am supposed to get $500 a month from clearing house for child support and it has not always added up to that due to time off work or not enough hours. He never paid me the difference.
He is constantly changing his phone numbers and pawning his phones. Debt collectors are trying to track him down left and right.
Last year he got a mistomeaner for criminal trespassing.
The report says he was too drunk to leave the property of a nightclub and kept vomiting outside.
One of his jobs called me last week saying he did not show up for over a week. The list goes on and on.
He cannot care for himself and certainly not for our kid.
What I need help with is the following:
Ex is now dating a law student who is advising him with our situation. Is it true that the visitation portion of the decree can be modified annually?
Can the divorce decree be modifyed annually as well?
Ex threatened to use the angle that I am on disability for mental illness against me as an unfit parent which is not the case and will be backed up by my treating doctor in order to modify visitation of the decree.
My ex is not on disability but has been diagnosed as depressed and quit taking his antidepressants.
My ex is an alcoholic and was just forced by a judge to go to an alcohol class for 16 hours. I have a copy of that document.
No overnights are in the decree. If ex trys to go to court to fight me on that to allow them how does a judge decide yes or no.
I am concerned because in the past ex blacked out during an alcohol binge and was penetrated by another male analy and claims that it was raped. I think he did it willingly.
So if he cannot protect himself how can he protect child. I am just curious if in front of a judge this goes back and forth how the judge decides who gets there way.
How easy is it to modify divorce decree from May 2012?
Is it true that is cannot be changed so soon since it is rather close to the original date.
Can a divorce decree be modified?
Can custody be changed?
Can travel with child rules be changed?
Once when ex took my kid for a walk alone he dropped her off at neighbors house without my authorization. That freaked me out.
Thank you I would love to hear your thoughts please.