Thank you for your question. Please allow me to assist you, John.I realize that you have a very complex issue and what's more, a very emotional issue as well. Please allow me to be direct. Once a child is no longer a child, meaning that once she reaches the age of majority, she is an adult, even if she lives elsewhere.
That means that the other parent cannot control, change, or otherwise interfere with communications between what is essentially two adults. Consequently if you wish to contact her, or find her through alternative media such as facebook or twitter, you can lawfully do so. I cannot tell you if you should do it as that is your own choice, but you absolutely CAN do so lawfully if you choose.
Hope that helps.
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