My ex-husband has asked for a continuance on a child support hearing to obtain legal counsel for a child support case. He is forcing the kids to ask for money as a method of controlling what money I have to support the children. My 14 year-old daughter wants to write a letter to the judge and explain what he is doing. Will the judge even look at this letter? Will the judge take into account any money he has been sending via MoneyGram in his favor? Also, just yesterday, he told my daughter, "Is your mom going to be using any of the money I send you?" He wanted the kids to take pictures of their receipts and send them in picture messages to show for what they used the money he sent them through MoneyGram. He only pays me $252 a month in child support plus a little extra for arrears. The Kansas Child Support Services is wanting to modify his child support to $1,029 a month based off both of our incomes. Isn't there anything that can be legally done to prevent this kind of manipulation and controlling behavior? He is self-employed, lives in a nice home with his girlfriend, and drives a nice truck, all of which are in other people's names. He also hasn't filed taxes for two years.
He is sending MoneyGram payments to control how money is spent. He tells the kids, "If you need money, just call me." So, the kids call and ask for money for various things. If they want shoes or something extra, they'll call their dad for money, but if it is for a household expense or an expense I need help with to support the kids that he foresees benefits me in some way, shape, or form, he will deny the money. Just so you know, I was in an abusive marriage, and I finally got out of it after sixteen years. This is his way of controlling me. Isn't there any legal way I can prove that what he is doing is just furthering the abuse after divorce?
I have a copy of an old PFA to prove that he was abusive, and he also got arrested for breaking that PFA. If the lawyer handling the case for the State of Kansas has this, will they use that as proof that his sending money via MoneyGram and using the kids to manipulate funds is part of the abuse?
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