yes her lawyer emailed the offer to my lawyer and it is offering supervised visitation even before they know what is on the records. however they would have the records well in advanced of actually getting me supervised visitation so it would be easy enough for them to take back the visitation offer after seeing the documents. I believe they don't have a leg to stand on in regards XXXXX XXXXX accusations on the restraining order and are looking for ammo to try and uphold the restraining order.
also, A concern of mine is that if i accept the supervised visitation when i clearly don't need it as i was the primary their whole lives. that it might paint me into a corner and might make judgments unfounded by courts as they may not understand that i did this on my own free will. I don't want to be treated legally different just because i accepted the terms. Am i making any sense.
also, if i refuse the offer which i don't think i can do as i have not been able to see my boys for 30days now and i don't think it is in the best interest for them to have their father just dissapear out of their lives. And i don't want anyone to be able to say .....See he didn't want to see his kids anyway.... so i am feeling like i am in catch 22.
they keep changing judges and until it settles on one and gets recorded my 10 days timer doesn't even start. also, they lumped my restraining order in with temporary custody hearing which i was told required a mediation hearing between my wife and i first before the court mandates anything.
So i believe i wont be seeing my boys for another 20 to 30 days. :-(
so sad that people will use their children as tools. I would never take the kids mother away from them.
Also, when she went to get the restraining order she told the judge that she didn't want the kids to be on it but because she was asking for an emergency restraining order that they had to be included. from that time she has had many requests by my father and my lawyer to lift the restraining order from the kids but she wont.
How does it make her look when we go to the custody hearing? and can my lawyer use this to our favor?
i am confused about the whole restraining order
but i will try to explain it the best i can with what bits of information i have
i took the restraining order to my lawyer (i could have went to the court myself and asked for a hearing and it would have happened on the restraining order itself asap 10 days or so) but my lawyer said she was going to take the restraining order to a higher court and establish temporary custody orders at the same time. Now that it has been taken over by my lawyer and bundled up with the custody it has been put on a different time frame to be handled as all these papers have had to be filed judges have been changed 3 times once by my wife then reassignment from another judge to a different one and now my order for judge change also temporary custody orders have been submitted to the court but no judge has yet been assigned also i guess before the hearing we Jamie and i are required to do arbitration with each other to see if we can come up with a solution on our own. Its all a bit confusing to me not to have had the restraining order handled on its own. To me (and i might just be paranoid) it would work out better for the lawyers if they didn't just handle the restraining order because if they did and Jamie and i could talk again we might actually work things out on our own and then they would not have all the divorce paperwork in at the courts. almost like a holding pattern to assure the parties are well trenched into the divorce to assure their jobs. (call me a skeptic but i always try to see who benefits from something no matter who it is)
i think she is great but i do want to investigate the TRO a bit as it might not even be active anymore
thank you for your help in these matters
can i call the court and see if the TRO still stands?
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