Socrateaser, Thanks for the prompt reply. I will rate your answer and we can continue in parts.
As for the 401k and all the retirement funds, I fully understand the QDRO situation etc.
My question is more basic. When one sits down to list all the assets, so later on one can divide by 2 and say "ok, we each get X dollars", let's see how we come up with these X dollars via you keeping A, I keeping B, and potentially some equalization payments...
What is the way of valuing each thing? For example: how do you value a car? Using Kelley's Blue Book? How do you value a house? An appraisal? Zillow? Same thing for 401k (for simplicity, assume the entire 401k is community property).
And then, once you have valued it, how do you address for taxes?
Example: You can get the 401k and say, "ok, this minus 22% is roughly the after tax value of this asset" (assuming you transfer it to your wife so she can claim the exception from the 10% early withdrawal penalty). .... But how do you do it with say a house, which you have not sold?
Do you compare all things pre-tax, after-tax?
We want to be fair, that's why I ask.
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