Good morning, I would not send that email, (nothing in writing) but I think he has the picture I've been through this a hundred times. If you push the child support, he will push again, for the visitation. Now, with his record, he won't win more visitation, or even any probably, but there goes another $10,000 or so in attorney fees. If you push him, he will push you (visitation-wise) back and although he's a loser and it will be obvious in court, ask yourself if you want to keep this going You know me by now, and know that I'm just being frank with you I would let it alone, and do without more support, so that he stays away Don't be mad at my advice, but please reply with your thoughts.
The visitation could be severely limited but I would confidently say (unfortunately) that no judge would completely revoke the right for a father to visit his child, no matter if he missed years of visits. He might adjust to more supervised, etc. however.
I understand. So from what Im being told... hes marrying her in September. I expect NO visits until after that date. Once he emails and asks to visit, am I within my legal rights to say please contact your attorney to contact my attorney to go back to mediation since the agreement on reecords is almost a year old and completly out of date?
Yes, because he was supposed to start the visits prior to this whole marriage thing and he didn't do it. He wants to just take the child after he marries and you should not let him. To me, the whole thing needs to be re-determined.
you know how paranoid i am... what do you mean by "the whole thing needs to be re-determined"?
Rec'd this email from him tonight. I have heard nothing from him since march when he asked if i would meet him with his fiance and kids to see easter bunny...what a joke... please review and let me know if i should respond or not..i wrote and email, but was out of anger..
XXXxx,We hope you are doing well. This half of your family misses you and we wish we could see you. You are constantly in our thoughts and we pray that circumstances will change soon. We know God has a plan and he is watching over you! Love and miss you buddy!!
my drafted responce.
Nice to hear from you again!
Did you send this to him already?
didnt send it... typed out of anger and i wanted to get your opinion before i sent final... or if i should respond at all
Dont you hate it when that happens?:)
How about this:
"Thank you for the prayers and well wishs for Dylan.
Its just too bad that you have been too busy to see him over the past 15 months. You claim to miss him and love him so much, but you have put forth zero effort to show up for scheduled visitation. To date you have missed 73 scheduled visitations."
This was my reply, short, sweet and to the point:
I FOUND HIM! I found where hes working now. Called the company and acted like a potential client. And she confirmed he's working there.
What do I do now? Call my attorney? Call child support? Need help because I am literally shaking now. All those emails between us from last week and he stated he hasnt been working nor has he worked since last year...
GOOD FOR YOU!! Tell your attorney and child support. However, child support will take a long time and your attorney should file a contempt action on him for not reporting his employment and/or lying about it. Can I hire you for my PI? LOL
this is what i proposed to my attorney:
my attorney told me in order to terminate parental rights my son would need to be adopted. is this the case in maryland?
i want him GONE! NO father is better then a father like him...
i just dont want my attorney to say terminating parental rights cannot be done.
im done with his antics, he doesnt give a crap about my son
Great. Thank you for that. I spoke with him Friday and he wants to meet for me to show him what ive got. he wants to modify child support and i was this sob gone from our lives... BUT if what i want cannot happen....
Since we can now prove that he purposly impoverished himself... Can a judge award back child support? He boo hoo'd in front of a just for four hours one month then less then a month later her purchased a home for 79k with his fiance... he also told the judge that he car was going to be repossed since he couldnt afford 800 monthly payment... he still has his vehicle along with a brand new 35k car he purchased for her... he lied..hes hiding and now it can all be proven.
Since we can now prove that he purposly impoverished himself... Can a judge award back child support? He boo hoo'd in front of a just for four hours one month then less then a month later her purchased a home for 63k with his fiance... he also told the judge that he car was going to be repossed since he couldnt afford 800 monthly payment... he still has his vehicle along with a brand new 35k car he purchased for her... he lied..hes hiding and now it can all be proven.
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