This is a long story, I will attempt to keep it short. I moved back to MD due to family illness and my daughter stayed with him. She is 22 years old. Four months ago I put her in a drug rehab - $40,000. He has paid nothing. He got angry at me because I won't pay any further support for her. He makes $60,000 a year, I make $10 an hour. He has hate and anger - he is also a drug addict. She got into his drugs. He blames me for all of this. It's craziness. My concern is I will be going back to California to help support her emotionally.
There's more. But that's the jist of things.
Thank you. I understand that this is not legal advice. My thought is this - I have blocked his phone because I don't want to hear him raging at me. But I left his email open and I will document anything that comes in. He wrote me today and "raged" over email at me. I kept it in a file. He raged at me on the phone a few months ago on my voicemail and threatened me. I made a copy of that voicemail on a CD and have it in a safety deposit box. I believe that he is just digging himself a deeper ditch the more he acts out at me.
Would you agree with my thought process on this?
And, thank you about the Order. I thought I would be able to request the classes and for him to get help. There are witnesses to all of these years of this. The Interventionist who put our daughter witnessed what happened today. My ex contacted the Interventionist frustrated that he could not get me to react the way he wanted me to.
Again, thank you.
Thank you so very much for your help. Is it possible I can get our exchange emailed to me for my records?
Good morning. You helped me last night, and I thank you for that. I would like to ask another question, if that would be ok. Although we cannot predict my ex-husband's reaction should I go forward with a Protective Order, what negative ramifications, if any, do I face should I do this? I'm not so sure waiting until I move to California is the right way to go. I am planning to visit with my daughter in the near future, and he will know I am coming. I "hate" this that I have to do this, but I have to protect myself.
And thank you for the follow up
I do not see any ramifications in getting the Order.
However, it will be difficult to do without you being in CA because the Courts may say "well, how is he a threat to your wellbeing if you are not even there" So you need to have proof that he is an imminent danger.
I do not know, if your daughter will be upset with you or not and that is all I can see as a possible consequence to having the PO.
Got it. Thank you, and yes, I have taken my daughter into account. I believe I will stay with, once I move I will put this into effect. The Interventionist who is involved in this whole mess stated what you said about my daughter as well. The Interventionist, who placed my daughter in rehab, is a witness to the last six months of her father's behaviors towards me - in person when I visited, by phone and email. The father has called him raging at my non-response. Probably my best way to handle this is to ignore him, and as you agreed with me, document whatever he does next. He triggers on no reactions to his anger outbursts. Thank you again. Have a nice day.
You enjoy your day, too
Good luck with it all
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