Live in South Jersey. My middle Daughter was brutally murdered by the Father of her then 2 year old son. He was placed with me on the day her body was recovered by DYFS. Since then, the Father remains in County awaiting trial, and his Parents who had not seen our Grandson are suing me for Custody. It has been a very ugly custody trial, with me being on the stand for the last two full days. I have been crossed like XXXXX XXXXXez as though I am the criminal. Although I do not have a social media account, my niece started one on FB IN Loving memory of my daughter. I write to her what goes on during his hearings, and what happens during the trial, a lot of it is most disgusting. Although I never curse, I am very passionate. An example, during one of the murderer's hearings is mother
, and her two children showed up, and were laughing... I am always accompanied by the Victims Advocate who couldn't believe it. I put in my writing, that his disgusting Mother and siblings were laughing, as though they were at a party, not a hearing for your murder. During Monday's custody hearing, their attorney, got up in my face with the printed pages from the FB pages, and started screaming at me, did you call her disgusting, I said yes, ... yes I did, he took one word of a long writing and zoomed in on just that. My oldest daughter plays soccer for the Woman's National Team, and she has won a Gold Medal at last years Olympics, went to the World Cup the year before, this attorney started to scream at me, that my daughter did not speak for some time due to her sexual preference (she is gay), I did not handle it well. I told him that was disgusting, and I never had a problem with it, I love my daughter, and the questions he kept yelling at me, I did not handle them too well, I think they have forgotten I have lost my daughter, and my world has stopped. The Paternal grandparents, live in a trailer, have 3 other children who do not work, one of which has a domestic violence
conviction, and must be supervised in my grandson presence. My daughter although she had left the father over a year before her death, they consider it Domestic Violence as he is the Father of her child. My grandson, has several disabilities now, night terrors, he witnessed the murder, he has Apraxia due to the trauma, he is in therapy, and goes to a special school to help him with his disabilities. I am the one who has put all of these in place for him. I do know, my posts have not helped me in the court room, and my inability to just sit there and answer without letting the questions bothering me, plus the fact he broke me several times, that I broke down, which was embarrassing, and not how I wanted to be seen by the murderer in court. Also of note, the murderer has two older children that the paternal grandparents have tried to get visitation
through the court system, and they were denied. Ultimately, I would like my oldest within the next few years to raise him full time, as she feels this is what my daughter would want, and purchased a home 1 mile from me to be close. Is there anyway with what I have told you, that I could lose custody to these people? I have an appointment with my attorney, as I have not been very happy with his job on this so far, and I do not want another day on the stand. I actually cannot take it. I want to see what my options are. My grandson also has very bad asthma and uses a nebulizer, and they all smoke, and have been court ordered not to. But every time he returns from a day visit he wreaks of smoke. Is the Judge seeing through this? Or should I be worried. I literally cannot take anymore badgering in the courtroom with this attorney. I still have not had any peace to grieve for my Daughter.