I am so appreciative - I can tell you have put a lot of thought and time into your replies
I had to get a probate attorney -- she represented me in the 5 hour hearing where I contested the brother's petition for conservatorship. Unfortunately she has limited experience -- I had to testify for 90 minutes
I had NO prior warning or preparation -- in fact she turned to me as I was heading to the stand and said she didn't know I had to testify. That she thought it was going to be arguments between lawyers -- I was anihilated on the stand and practically burst into tears -- whereas the brother looked slick polished and very well rehearsed
My gut is that if I drop the divorce litigation
Then there will be a contested conservatorship
Again - I am willing to do a co- conservatorship
But in the court I was in ---the judge just went by what the guardian fir my husband and the guardian for my children recommended.
How can I possibly convince them? This is grossly unfair
I don't think brother can ever have the children's or my best interest at heart when he hates me so much
He won't speak to me. He wants to reduce my support
Won't pay fir extras fir children very cold and black and white
My husbands expenses are fixed and only 6K / month
He is bringing in 24 K month on disability
The marital home is a short sale. And he is declaring personal bankruptcy
I am living in a rental w/ 3 kids while the brother wants to give me 5K month
Snd save 14 K month fir my husband when my husband has 2 million dollars in his 401K
My question is: 1) how do I get rid of the guardian for the kids? The court appointed her and she is TERRIBle. She has never asked me anything about the kids. She won't talk to me yet she was over across the room talking to my hysband's siblings lighting and buddy buddy
My girlfriend I'd the attorney fir DSS inbour county and she noticed hiw friendky the guardian fir the kids was s/ Ken's family
The guardian for my husband I like he listened snd conversed comfortably w/ both dudes.
2) where do I find a more aggressive experienced attorney?
3) hiw foes one Dorset the process of mediation
4) if divorce litigation goes away dies that make the family jydge's orders null snd void?
5) hiw finish obtain support from the probate side
My divorce lawyer is so busy that he doesn't have time for me it's like trying to get an audience w/ the pope -/ I feel like I gave him 75 K and gotten nowhere because it's not a straight up divorce anymore. . He plays catch up snd I think this case is one fir the law books and warrants a lot of research and thought. It is unique
I gave even called Harvard law school looking fir someone to take sn interest I am also calling and emailing prifessors at USC law school that teach probate
Anyway I would like to hear more from you
But I have to put my kids to bed
I will touch base later
You are great