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(1) The paperwork
. If your ex refuses to complete the paperwork so that the kids can attend the counseling per the court's order, then you need to bring that to the judge's attention. The judge may order your ex to provide the paperwork and depending on the circumstances he may hold your ex in contempt.
(2) The girlfriend
. If the ex and his girlfriend scare the kids by telling the kids that they'll take the kids away from you, then it's possible that could be considered the beginnings of parental alienation
, which occurs when one parent attempts to damage the relationship between the kids and the other parent. It can occur by making negative comments to the kids. You should bring this to the attention of the judge as well.
You should request your lawyer to file a motion for a rule to show cause so that your ex must come before the judge to explain his actions (or inaction, as the case may be). If you have no attorney, then I would contact the court clerk and ask if there are any forms for that motion.
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