Good morning Lisa,
Thank you for the additional information.
The fact that your friend's child is made to shower in garage, as opposed to a bathroom in the home does not constitute neglect. And unless his asthma flares because of the living conditions and his father does nothing about the flare---a claim of neglect is also unlikely to be sustained by the court.
While I'm not sure what your friend means when she says that the "house" her husband is living in is not supposed to be a residence. It sounds like a legal residence---with perhaps too many people sharing the space---but a legal residence never-the-less.
While none of this living situation is sever enough to call it outright neglect and involve CPS in CA, it is relevant to which of them will be granted primary custody in the divorce. Additionally, as the father is living with other individuals at this property, and the son is not even allowed to use the bathing facilities inside the home---it might be appropriate to ask the court to appoint a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) to look into the claims of the mother
as regards XXXXX XXXXX than healthy living arrangement her son is being exposed to---and if that is ordered, then the GAl will report back to the court and make a recommendation for custody based on the best interests of the child. This may well work to your friend's benefit.
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