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I desperately want to divorce my husband. We have not had sex in a million years, but as this is a 50/50 state I guess that doesn't matter that he has been verbally abusive. Well, I have known him more than a decade and lived with him for about that long but have ben married for ight miserable years and have twins with autism, three years old. I have never worked since I met him as I had a horrible accident that left me diabled. He has been there through that and never caredd than that I couldn't have sex and I should have known, I really want to know how long I would receive alimoney and child support
Response 1: You would be awarded alimony/spousal support/maintenance in such amounts and for such periods of time as the Court deems just, without regard to misconduct, after Court considers all relevant factors. Some of those factors are: (1)The financial resources of the party seeking maintenance, including separate or community property apportioned in the settlement agreement, and the ability to meet his or her needs independently;(2) the standard of living established during the marriage;(3) the duration of the marriage (3) the age, physical and emotional condition, and financial obligations of the spouse seeking maintenance. Because of your disability, it is most likely that the Court would order permanent alimony/spousal maintenance in your case. See Revised Code of Washington, Title 26, Chapter 26.09, Section 26.09.090.
For child support, Child Support would continue until the age of majority, which is 18 in Washington State. However, since the children are autistic, the Court would most likely extend the duration of child support payments beyond the age of majority.
would I get primary custody as I take care of them and he only sees them on weeends and I am the one to take them to all the therapy.
Response 2: Since you are the primary care giver, it is likely that the Court would give you primary custody of the children with visitation rights to the father. In a Custody case, the Court would make a decision based on what is in the best interests of the children by looking at the living arrangement of the parties to the custody dispute, their lifestyles, associations, parenting skills, etc. If the Court finds after reviewing these factors that the children would be better off living with you, the Court would rule in your favor and give you sole physical and legal custody of the children with visitation rights to the father. Otherwise, the Court may order joint custody. However, based on the information that you have provided here, I do not see that happening since the father has not been actively involved in the children's care giving. Nevertheless, it is very important that you tell the Court any and all reasons why the father should not be allowed to have joint custody and why you should be given sole custody; any witnesses should be brought to the Court to testify. Remember that the Court can only make decision based on the evidence presented to the Court.
I want out. He makes me so sad and calls me names and makes about 200 K a year. Like? Tell me what to do now and how long as he smiles and says I will be on public assistance with his autistic babies. Cruel is all he is.
Response 3: He is dreaming. The State would not let you be on public assistance with the children when their father is capable of supporting you. His wages would be garnished and assets like bank account seized to pay for child support and alimony if he does not cooperate. So, do not let his words bother you so much.