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You may wish to ask the court for an adjournment so that you can speak to an attorney. Even though you know that you can't afford an attorney and that legal aid can't help you, it will give you time to file the necessary paperwork that you need to dissolve the TRO.
In order to obtain temporary or permanent injunctive relief, your ex must
demonstrate four elements: (1) the existence of a wrongful act; (2) the existence of imminent harm; (3) the existence of irreparable injury; and (4) the absence of an adequate remedy at law.
You DO need to file a Petition to Dissolve TRO. To do so, you must use the same caption as in your ex's pleading for the TRO (eg. Court, parties, case number, judge, and name of pleading.
Then, your pleading can be named "Defendant's Answer to Plaintiff's Request for an Injunctive Order"
Next, you must answer each and every paragraph of your ex's Petition. You can admit the allegations, deny the allegations as untrue and indicate why the allegations in each paragraph are untrue, or neither admit or deny the allegations contained in your ex's Request for an Injunctive Order because you don't have enough information upon which to form a belief as to the truth of the allegations of the paragraph.
In each applicable paragraph, you can indicate why the allegations are not true. For example, the reasons that you stated in your post as to why you don't think that your husband should get an injunction should be placed in your Answer.
Moreover, below is a link to a Controverting Affidavit. You can use it as a template and then change the facts as necessary.
You must file the original paperwork with the court and serve a copy of the paperwork on your ex's attorney by regular mail. You must then file a Proof of Service (available at the court) indicating to the court how you served your ex's attorney (by regular mail).
So, in order to do all of these things, you will need to ask for adjournment of the hearing. If, however, you are denied an adjournment, then you can still testify as to all of the facts that you would have written in your Petition and Controverting Affidavit. You can not only cross examine any witnesses that your ex calls, but you can call witnesses on your behalf and you can testify on your own behalf as well.
Just because your husband is in a better financial position than you doesn't mean that he is the best parent to have custody of the children.
No matter what happens, all you can do is the BEST that you can do.
I hope you find this information useful.
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