My 12 yr old is his biological child but he is on the birth certificate of my other 3 children as well.
No i never took it to court bc I was affraid.
He has been verbally abusive to my daughter and when he has been around the other 3, he can be very intimidating , yelling at them and at me in front of them calling me horrible things.
My children are 12, almost 4, almost 3 and almost 2 yrs old
You see though, I have been both mother and father to these kids, many years living on and off with him. I stayed bc I didnt feel I could protect them if I wasnt there. My 12 yr old is severely emotionally damged and truly hates him. She wants nothing to do with him. He is a bad example for them all. He also may go to jail. He doesnt send a dime for them. He has never been to a pediatrician apt or parent teacher conference or anything.its always been just me. His whole family has not been involved in their life at all. He drives without a liscence and is not a good driver either. I wouldnt want them even in the car with him. He is a bully. If my 2 sons have him as an example, they will end up like him, a street hustler.
I just want to add that he never took care of us. When he was making money in the time hes being charged for (Using investors money As personal ATM)...we had no heat or evn electricity many times, even freezing cold winters, meanwhile he was purchasing homes for his sister, brther and Mother. But not his own child. I am affraid to report him bc he will consider me his enemy. Also, in the very begining used my social security number to commit a crime with his brother in my name without asking me or telling me. I was 8 months pregnant at the time.
Can I just document it for my own records and not report him? Would that mean anything to a judge if it ever comes down to it. I dont plan on ever living with him again. If my daughter tells the judge why she doent want to go with him, will they make her? SHe is only 12 yrs old. She has witnessed petty theft, his lying etc and his abuse.
This is all very bad news. So what if he is convicted felon soon, will that effect his rights?
one more question, The school recently called me down bc they are concerned about my 12 yr old. I explained about her dad and the effect its had on her bc they can see that she has emotional problems. They tld me not to ask her to get on the phone with him anymore or have him here to visit (obviously). Do I have to worry about the school reporting this?
Also, When he visited in may of this year, the IRS criminal investigation unit from NY banged on my door at 5 am to arrest him. They had flown in from NY to find him bc he kept giving them the wrong address. When they came in, they woke my kids up shining flashlights in their faces and my daughter was also traumatized by that.
I just cant belive that any court would even cnsider forcing childen into a situation that would be bad for them and possibly dangerous. There are many poeple angry at him bc he collected 8 million dollars from investors and nevr paid back or acounted for. I was also concerned that thse people would try to hurt me and my children thinking that its the bet way of getting him to pay them back. When in reality, he cares less about us.
Thank you Alex for all of your help
Alex, I would give u a bonus if i cold bc youve been excellent but the 79 dollar fee for this session im certain has already put me in overdraft in my bank acct. but you were excellent and caring and I have rated you as such. Goodnight
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