my daughter is about to get her kids back from DCS, my husband and I became foster parents to keep the 3 boys with us. the other grandma popped up after all these years for the first time and gave DCS adoption papers for the middle child 14yrs old. We heard she was caught cashing Social Security checks in my grandson's name all these years without having physical custody, and believe this is why she is trying to take him from us so she can resume getting that money. What can we do? DCS says their hands are tied because it should go to Family Court. pls help we are all miserable!
Optional Information: Country relating to Question: United StatesState (if USA): IndianaWhat have you tried so far?: nothing yet because the DCS case is not over yet.
Hello, my name is XXXX, XXX I'd like to answer your question. First, I have a question of my own.From your post, it looks like your question is, how to keep the middle child with you and not going to the other grandmother? Am I right?
yes
And, when you say she has "adoption papers," you mean she has an actual court decree of adoption?
I have not seen them, but dept. of child services says they have them.
I'm very sorry to have to tell you this, but I do not believe that there is any way you can prevent her being returned to the other grandmother (her adopted mother) as soon as DCS says its safe to do so. That's pretty much what adoption means. Its final.Cashing the social security checks is a bad thing, but its not directly related to the girl's safety.
The many years of not caring for the child should be taken into account by DCS, but only as one factor among many.I much prefer giving people good news rather than bad news, but there it is.
wouldn't this be a case of abandenment?
Possibly, if she had no contact with the child over many years ... but that's a factor in the DCS case, its of no direct help to you.