as they like from morning till night while Xxxxand his girlfriend are upstairs in their apartment. He says it fine because they have walkie talkies and I disagree and think they need supervision which he doesn’t offer.
Xxxxxx came home from a visit with him with a black eye that took up almost the whole side of his face. When asked what happened Xxxx told me “he wasn’t paying attention and a 60 mph baseball hit his face while playing catch, “he needs to learn” was his response.
He had asked to take the boys to Oregon to visit his parents and when I denied that because I was concerned about the boys while with him, he proceeded to tell me that he hates me and will make it his life goal to make my life miserable and will do anything he can to make that happen until he is in the grave.
One weekend Xxxxxx didn’t want to go with Xxxx. Xxxx was very angry and told Xxxxxx that he didn’t love him and that he was going to punish him in a way he’s never been punished and will sit and think of ways to punish him if he didn’t go. He then threatened to put him in car by force and that’s when I stepped in and said just leave it alone, he is too old to be forcibly put in the car.
I went to pick them up on a Sunday at his apartment and the boys were there alone and Xxxx showed up after we were there and said he went to the laundrymat down the street. His response was that he wasn’t gone that long and it’s not a big deal. There was no land line, he didn’t tell the boys he was leaving nor to not open the doors. My children are a very young 7 and 8 year old that are NOT responsible enough to be left alone. This was the one time I saw it and I have no idea how often he actually does this.
He showed up to Xxxxxx’s 8th birthday party 1 hour late and was visible intoxicated and the other guests at the party had mentioned that he seemed either high or drunk.
He took them camping when his parents were in town and the boys asked if they could go have an adventure and they were going to the lake he said yes go ahead. At this point neither of the boys could swim nor did they know the area they are in. It was early morning and everyone was still sleeping except Xxxx. Xxxxxx then got stuck in mud and couldn’t get out and was scared, Xxxx on walkie talkie told Xxxx and it took 5 minutes to get to him. Had that been the lake, Xxxxxx would have been gone before he could get to him. Again, his response to this was “They need to learn” He lets them ride their bikes/scooters/skateboards without helmets and even takes them to skate parks and riding in downtown San Jose without helmets.
When I bring up my concerns with him, all I get is “You’re crazy, get over it” This is a very frustrating response which leads me to the court.
His current live in girlfriend has also expressed her concerns to me over his drinking and anger issues. She said they are getting counseling and the he needs it for his anger problem.
My oldest (Xxxxxx) is really being effected by his behavior and will return from his house a different person and he will yell and scream and throw things and yell that he hates himself. A few days later he has calmed down and back to his happy self and it repeats the next week.
During our marriage I was thrown against a wall and choked on at least 2 occasions. His drinking and verbal/physical/emotional abuse is the main reason for our divorce.
From the advice of the CPS worker I have tried to keep them as much as possible by asking him if I could keep them and it has worked very well but now he is asking for them more and I am concerned for them.
June 30, 2012
Xxxx did not not pick up boys on Friday June 29 and I had not heard from him until 1pm on Saturday. I assumed at this point he wasn’t taking the boys and made plans. Xxxx showed up at 7:30 to pick them up and Xxxxxx did not want to go. Xxxx yelled at him and demanded he give him back the ipod he bought for him for his birthday the week before.Xxxxxx gave it to him. Xxxx wanted to go and got in the car and Xxxx drove by Xxxxxx who was outside with friends and was waving his ipod in his face taunting him that he would never get it back. This broke Xxxxxx’s heart. Not losing the Ipod but the way Xxxx spoke to him.