I'm going through a terrible divorce. I have a visitation order to see my two children. However, my soon to be ex wife put an O.P. out on me simply because she can and doesn't have to prove anything. Due to this O.P., I have not been able to see my kids for the past 6 months or even speak to them because she won't answer the phone. She also had me arrested twice out of lies which I proved in court but can't go near the marital residence or her for that matter. Nonetheless, my ex does not even answer the phone when my parents call to speak to the children. She is being vindictive, selfish and is depriving our children of their father and grandparents. Most likely, she will not relinquish the children even if a friend or family member goes to the marital residence to pick them up so I can see them through my court order. I am against local police station pick ups and drop offs because I don't want to expose my children to that environment. She has dragged this divorce on for over 2 years just to make me suffer. Trial begins in October in Supreme Court in Queens, New York. Is there any way to petition the court to letting me see my children and make them aware of what she's been doing? Obviously, she is not being a mother but has custody through the courts. New York divorce laws are terrible especially if you're a man. Set aside a loving father. Please help.

Yours,
Marco Gioeli.

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Country relating to Question: United States
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a list of names to give to my lawyer to pick up my kids for visitations.