I am going through a divorce for 2 years now. I am out of money and have no attorney. I am the plaintiff. Can I just drop the case? I guess I would have to hire an attorney for that too. I don't care if I am divorced, I am renting now, she is in the house. Will this just force her to have to do it?
Hi, I'm trained and experienced in family law, and I would love to help you through your current situation.
You don't "need" an attorney to take or to drop the case.
You can motion to withdraw your attorney from the case.
You can reach a settlement agreement, to prevent continued divorce proceedings. Short of that, you can proceed on your own (without an attorney); this is called pro se.
I notified the attorney this morning to withdraw. He is going to do that. If I don't go to court, they will give her everything. My question is can I just do something to withdraw my request for divorce. And if so, where does that leave us. Note: She wants 99% of what we have, including 4000 a month permanent alimony. I wish I could just drop the case and stop paying for things and make her do some work for a change.
I'm so sorry.
You should not have to pay alimony unless she has a need
You cannot withdraw the divorce, as she can divorce on her own in a no-fault state such as yours.
She is a hairdresser, only works 3 partial days a week now, does not claim hardly any cash, I can't prove it though but they know what hairdressers do. I don't care if she divorces me, that would be great. I just know based on what my attorneys said that I am going to get railroaded. Evidently my county is extremely hard on men. The surrounding counties don't have that reputation. If I am going to get railroaded, I would just like to drop it. What happens then?
Did you initiate the divorce on your own?
Did you jointly enter?
Or did she enter on her own?
yes, I am the plaintiff
In that case, you can request that a court drop the divorce.
To do so...
File a motion to dismiss, and notify the other party
What happens then? Will she have to start the whole process over?
There will likely be a hearing, and the judge will sign the order (or won't).
Then, the respondent can petition (which would start it all over)
Is that what you want, or is there something else?
I want to help you as much as possible.
I am just disgusted with the unfairness. I no longer trust the judge. I just want it over but if they award her a large permanent alimony and most of what we owned, I don't know what I will do. I do know that I have been studying ways to get out of this life.
I understand. I'm so sorry you feel that way.
You can file a motion to dismiss.
Or, you can come to an agreement...
Or, you can proceed with or without your attorney
Or, if you believe the judge's crooked, you can request that he be removed as there is the appearance of impropriety
The only agreement she wants is to get 99% and 4000 a month permanent alimony. I always thought she was being unreasonable but my attorneys lead me to believe not. I do not have evidence that the judge is crooked, I just base it on my attorneys digging in the case then coming back and saying I definitely will pay alimony and not get 50/50. On my side, there is no reason for them to say that. It is only after they talk with the judge or her attorney that their minds changed. That says crooked to me. I do not believe anyone would remove him based on what I said my attorney said.
You never know. That might be your best shot at this point.
If not, your other options are those that I gave you.
I'm so sorry you're going through this, my friend.
I feel that you really do care. The problem is, it seems there is nothing anyone can do for me. It just looks like I am fighting a losing battle. Statistically, what happens when a man does it pro se?
I do care. The chances aren't great, but you never know. If you choose to proceed that way, please ask for max713.
...with any questions you have.
Which way are you referring to? I really believe it stems from the balls of her attorney, evidently she is a big shot. She is from a few counties over and has a big reputation.
I understand. That can be a predicament.
Sorry that's happening to you.
Thanks for your help.
You are most welcome, my friend.
Best of luck
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