The Father & Myself(Biological Mother
) have agreed to a Shared Parenting
Since agreeing to the Visitation
Terms; Father every other weekend starting Friday 6:30pm-Sunday 6:30pm, the Father has refused some visitations canceled others and recently I graduated and started new employment. I then informed the Father of my new employment and the conflict of my schedule not allowing me to meet him at the agreed meeting spot over 100miles. He stated he understood and would meet me on Saturday mornings at 6am. We met twice at under the new agreement and now I am being served with contempt of visitation for not only the two Saturday meets, but the previous missed visitation due to the Father not being available.
Moreso, he has another daughter who lives within minutes of him and he has filed the same contempt under the same situation with her mother.
The Father wanted full custody in hopes to stop childsupport, however, after two years of custody litigation his child support
was only increased. I suspect this is the motive for his intentional deceit.
Also, since the new S.P.P I have been in contact with the mother of his daughter and learned that he is a womanizer, woman beater, and functioning alcoholic. I was unaware of this since I have not had contact with the Father since 6months after our son birth, which was Father decision and our son is now fourteen.
Even more disturbing I recently was informed the Father was charged with a new DV and restraint order is in effect with the mother of his daughter. He is court ordered no contact except via email with the mother and visitation for his daughter is to be done at the local police station.
I'm now questioning my son safety and the influence this will have on our new teenager development into manhood. Second, I'm married and my husband has orders to relocate to a different state. My SPP states neither patent can relocate without both parties consent or court order.
Although, I'm willing to Foster a Relationship between Father and son, I do not trust the Father intentions or motives. I do not feel that he has our son best interest in heart , but his own interest to control my life and make it as miserable as possible for increasing the support order
Then there's our son who is Happy to have his Father in his life but has been victim to his physical abuse
and responds to it as if he did it because he wants him to be a better man. Our fin has no issues other than puberty and being a teenager. Nothing worth bring punched in the chest.
I tried to request the magistrate to allow noire visitation until these new issues are addressed but I was informed our SPP states we have to have mediation
first. I don't want our son alone with him and I don't want to quit my job because of the SPP order. What are my rights at this point?
The Father is very educated and has shown to have a Narcistic personality, I no he will not agree to his abusive nature Nor his agreement to change for visitation days for my employment nor allow me to relocate even when he doesn't want our son.
I've spent over 10k of our savings for the custody litigation and his banks bigger than mine. Since, I'm aware of his true identity now I want to change my decisions. I have proof of his lies on the interrogatories
and his financial business was never reported on childsupport calculations he even lied about his spouse income and I have proof of that. I have his criminal records for assault and DV his current restrAining order
and his prior conviction was before the signing of the SPP which states no party was convicted of DV and swore he was not. The mother of his daughter is willing to testify and his daughter who is fourteen as well and upset with her Father.
So at this point, I want to know what are my choices, my rights? How do I protect my son, and get out of this controlling contract forcing me to co-parent with a Father who has taken my kindness for weakness and seeking to make my life miserable.