Thank you for allowing us to assist you with this problem.
I'm very sorry to hear that you are dealing with this problem while deployed and that your children are facing this problem.
You can attempt to give your mother a POA but that most likely will not help you. A better option would be for you to contact CPS to investigate and make sure they are aware that your mother is available to care for the children until your return. However, remember that CPS can only truly help you if they are able to witness some immediate danger to the children. I only caution you because if CPS does not find any problem that could ultimately hurt your chances of seeking custody when you return because the court. When you return you can seek a change in custody based upon what you shared.
Any person who is affected by the order can ask the court to modify or enforce the order. Before the court can grant a modification, it must find:
1. that the modification is in the best interest of the child;
2. that the circumstances of the child, a conservator or a party affected by the order have
materially and substantially changed since the order was signed by the court.
3. that a child over 12 years of age has filed with the court a written preference for a different primary managing conservator. However, since you children are young this factor would not be an issue
4. that the primary managing conservator has voluntarily given up care and possession of the child to another person for at least 6 months.
If the change is requested within 12 months of the original order, you must also show one of the following:
1. The child’s present environment may endanger the child’s physical health or significantly impair the child’s emotional development;
2. The person entitled to establish the child’s primary residence is consenting to or bringing the motion for the best interest of the child;
3. The person entitled to establish the child’s primary residence has voluntarily given care and possession to another person for at least 6 months and a change would be in the child’s best interest.
The courts have identified several events that amount to a material and substantial change. Marriage to another person can be a material and substantial change. A change in residence, age, medical condition, employment, criminal history or the relationship between the parents making the current orders unworkable can be found by the court to be a material and substantial change.
The process to modify a current court order affecting custody, visitation or support begins with a petition to the court asking for the modification. You will probably need the assistance of a lawyer to file a proper petition because there are several things that must be in the petition and you will need to make sure that the petition is properly served on the other party. Once the petition is filed and served, the court can enter temporary orders if properly requested. If the modification is agreed to by the other party, the process can be completed relatively quick. If the other party wants to contest the modification then the court will have to schedule the case for trial.