Generally, there would be an investigation conducted by the Division of Children and Families ( DCF )
Many times they would come and talk to you and you can explain the situation
Have you been contacted yet by DCF?
no he's just texting this to her
Okay...does he say in the texts what the basis for the abuse allegations are?
Also, you should have her save the text messages for proof later on. Sometimes you can forward the texts to your email and save them that way
that is punch her in the stomach
and hit her in the back
How old is the child?
2 years old almost 3
DCF gets involved, they would also likely speak to the child to see what the child says
how do i cover my butt? should i go to police
Did the ex-husband take the child to the hospital or report to the police?
This can be used against the Ex-Husband if anything arises in the future
If the Ex-Husband suspected the child abuse and did not report it, that would look bad against the ex
How long has he been texting this for?
couple days i guess
Okay. The mother may want to try and get the most information through him and text
should i still get an attorney or talk to police? or just wait it out
Generally, you could document it with the police or DCF. Do you suspect that the Ex-Husband has been inflicting the abuse on the child and then blaming it on you?
Or, has the child not been abused by anyone and the Ex is just making it all up?
no.. the kid is not being abused at all
making it all up
the problem is i love the kid more then he does
Then it may be best to put DCF and the police on notice of the false allegations...you could show the text messages as proof. However, if you do notify the authorities, it is likely they will start an investigation.
If you just let it go for now, you should try and save all of the text messages.
Also, try to get the Mother to somehow get the Ex to state that he was making it up or that it really never happened
No problem. That is a difficult situation for sure
any other advice
should i leave her
and the child
Take pictures of the child when she leaves your custody
im never alone with her its always the mother and i
Not necessarily. Then you should have a witness on your side
wouldnt the mother be a witness
It is very difficult to prove you did not do something. The child would be the key to any investigation
However if the Ex brainwashes the child to thinking that it was you, that could be trouble.
so i should go to the police and start investigation
Generally, that would have to be major brainwashing...the child is likely to say that Daddy hurt me, if that is what happened
just to cover my ass
Yes, you can do that.
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