I have been divorced since 1984. I was a victim of domestic violence
, emotional abuse, sometimes physical, extreme jealousy/obsession, control, and contiued threats for going to Alanon. When I filed for divorce
, I was extremely afraid of what he would do to me and our two kids. While we were selling our house (I still don't know if my ex withheld money from the sale & its second mortgage with the buyers), my son (age 8 at the time), told me his father was showing him his gun (from his days in the SF police force). I knew in my gut that his gun was meant to kill our kids & me (and probably himself). Even after the divorce, he controlled me through our kids, stalked me, manipulated my family & friends against me (had sex with some of them), & never remarried. I just remarried two years ago to a wonderful man (I had been against marriage
-as you can imagine). My ex has now permanently turned my kids against me (through jealousy) and I no longer see them or my two grandkids. I am more furious against him now then ever!
My question is this: We used a paralegal in Santa Clara county (we didn't have the money for a lawyer. I never asked for alimony
or retirement (but now I want it) because I was afraid (and mistaken) he would think he still "owned" me. Looking back, I should have hired a lawyer anyway to protect my interests and provide counsel for me that was badly needed in my situation at the time. It has taken me a lifetime to feel my own power and honor myself. In light of the terrible situation now with my grown children, I want what's owed to me. Is there a lawyer who can help me? My email is [email protected]
com and phone XXX-XXX-XXXX
Thank you for your time!