I am sorry to hear of this situation for you.
What you do now, is you allow his attorney to serve the Complaint for divorce.
You will have 30 days to Answer it. This is where you can contest and oppose the divorce
You will read the Complaint and see what is been alledged for the purpose of the divorce and what else is being sought.
You can decide to consult with a local attorney at that time, or try to Answer the Complaint yourself
You have not been formally served, so yes
That is correct.
The fact the Attorney asked you to respond to him does not mean anything.
You must be formally served.
So if you don't respond to him by tomorrow, he will serve you.
You can call the attorney and tell him that you thought you could reconcile and since you cannot, he needs to serve you.
But I would not suggest you say much more to the attorney.
Or you can opt not to contact him at all and just be served
If you want to consult with a local attorney, I would suggest you try the Illinois Bar Association for a referral service. I will get you that information.
Will they hold what against you?
That will not be held against you
When you get served, read the Complaint and then consider consulting with a local attorney
I am sorry you are experiencing this. I hope it all works out for you
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