You will have parental rights. Getting sole custody is very difficult. Courts usually order joint custody with primary residential custody with the mother. That means you get decisionmaking authority (with her) and visitation, including some vacations. The exception to this is if she is abusive, alcoholic, drug addicted or has some other problems that makes her an unfit mother. An inappropriate home environment is another reason. However, you will need hard evidence, such as an arrest or a restraining order to really prove your case.
Oh alright got ya. Now the deal far as child support... If I was willing to be there as far as finances for the child before hand she could still hit me with it correct?
Yes. That may explain her actions. It would be best if you could get together, but that may not be possible. You have to be VERY careful, as you know. No matter what she does, stay calm. You do not want any trouble that will come back and hurt you when you seek joint custody. Child support will be computed based on your income and her income, no matter what happened before.
Wow. I reckon if you want to get screwed go to the courthouse, if you want justice go to the whorehouse. Thanks for your help sir.
The bright side is that you may soon have a child. This is a blessing by any measure. Child support is a pain, but you will pay either way. The best result is to reconcile with her, but that may not be possible. In a way, you are better off. You have your freedom.
She needs you.
No matter what she says or does, try to be nice. Hormones are making her crazy. Try to ignore it.
Yeah you do have a valid point. And far as the relationship goes, when she won't even let me know how my child is doing, telling me that I'm worthless, etc. It gets old. Not to mention the fact that she is advertising on Facebook for someone to be with her.
You know when I'm out her busting my ass for hardly no pay and risking my life everyday I come on duty and what little I do make she is just gonna get it free. I guess I'm just young and it is getting to me. Argh.
You are not worthless, so she is wrong. She may have psychological issues since she is adopted (abondonment issues). Just keep being nice and ignore her behavior as best you can.
If you have low pay, your child support obligation will be lower.
Once she calms down, can you try and get back with her? This is a volatile situation, so you have to be careful. The last thing you need is a restraining order. That will effect visitation and custody. Try to be nice and supportive, ignoring her foolishness. She might come around.
Hope this helps you. If you need more, let me know. Otherwise, please click "Accept". You are doing great. Stay calm, be nice and hang in there.
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