Dear sir, I thank you for your information. I will accept and give positive feedback shortly. I understand the care of funds for my son after he's of age to receive some. I can't set up a bank account for him under his name, although the ex has one that I can't get her to close. I have to report his holdings to the DSS for recertification and any funds he has available are "counted against" what he can receive in services.
The next question is one that I have to address but will greatly complicate relationships with everyone involved.
The following is informational only, not my silly griping. The x lives with a man who had cheated on his wife for 20+ years with hookers, He watched his own daughter and her friends skinny dipping while he sat in shadows. I have concerns but he has not touched my children. He is manipulative and likes to posture above other people. He is the one who talked the ex into stopping paying support. During my time of financial difficulties, a creditor called his home ( the phone number is XXXXX that the ex took with her from a home business she had). He answered and pretended to be me. Are there any legal ramifications from that?
The more serious inquiry is about child abuse. My son frequently has blisters on his butt when he returns from her home (probably from lack of changing his brief through the night). My son has pausiarticular juvenile arthritis and is not allowed to wear pants or sit on furniture. I can only imagine that his knees and hips can get sore and his colds come from sitting on a pergo floor all the time. He has a wheelchair that is stored on a screened in porch or left in the back of their suv. It has gel packs to sit on to help prevent 'bed sores'. These are the same kind of gel that therapists use to heat and cool for joints. His chair is brought in and he's put in it for going on the school bus. I have to guess that the temp doesn't meet the temp around it for a couple hours. The metal of the chair must radiate some cold also. Minor issue; the x's boyfriend thinks my son smells and coats him liberally with a cologne. he gets some minor rashes from this.
I get this information from a sitter who used to work at there house, but that was awhile ago. I get my current information from my daughter's. Therein lies my dilemma. I have to protect my son, but I'll need to put my daughter's in a position of getting their mother and boyfriend (who instituted most of these rules) in trouble. I have requested that they make changes. They loudly informed me that I have no rights at their house.
The house is located on a corner on a cliff. Impossible for a PI to use surveillance. I know that the x knows she does wrong. If there is an official person coming to see them she dresses my son just for the occasion. I'm perplexed at how to proceed but determined that I have to......
I thank you for your assistance. Dan