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There are certain "words and key phrases" which you should become accustomed to using in preparation for your hearing and you must stress the following to the Judge
1. First, under Texas law, a Custody Order entered by the Court cannot and should not be changed, or amended, unless the party desiring the modification can prove that there has been "a substantial change in circumstances" sinc the date of the last Custody Order.
There has been no change in circumstances, substantial or otherwise, and, therefore, the Custody Order should not be amended because it will disrupt the child's emotional, physical, and mental security, and stability, and will disrupt his entire schedule;
2. The father is not a good or proper role model for your son to emulate; Father has been convicted of violent crimes, he is prone to violence, has been incarcerated for over 9 years, is still on probation, has no real job to speak of, and cannot instill any ethics, or morals in his son which he himself does not possess or value;
3. The father has never showed an interest in either of his children and was never around to help you raise them and wants to take the credit now when your son is 14 years old; In addition, if the father is awarded even partial custody, your son will be separated from his sister and it is not healthy to separate siblings, nor to make one sibling feel that they are loved less than their brother;
4. The father has told you that he wants his son so that you will have to pay him child support and you believe this to be true.
The guiding principle for all Family Court Judges in Custody cases is "What will be in the best interests and permanent welfare of the child".
You must use this phrase often and state that the "best interests and permanent welfare of your son can only be met by allowing your son to remain with you", and that you agree to visitation
by his father, however, it must be supervised visitation
because you fear for your son's safety as well as the violent influence he may have on your son.
I hope this information gives you a better understanding of your situation and which steps you must take to protect the safety, morals, and welfare of your son. If you need clarification on anything, please let me know and I will be glad to explain further. In the meantime, please press "Accept" so that I receive credit for assisting you. Thank you,