I have been involved in a very emotional separation
from my wife the last few weeks and after moving out, she has continued to be very hurtful. I won a restraining order
against her last week, but there still has been contact by her and her family (which I foolishly did nothing about) and yesterday she got my sister very upset when they spoke, to the point of breaking her down emotionally.
I won't get into what she said as it's doesn't matter, but I am only human and after being lied to for over 6 years, watching my family get destroyed because of her drug addiction (Monday she has a surrender hearing for breaking her probation so many times and failing so many random drug tests), I finally struck back. I didn't do anything until I had reached my limit and just wanted to get back at her. Being so raw and emotional, I was also not thinking and I learned I accidentally had access to her Hotmail and Facebook accounts. I let her use one of my computers for years when we were together and when I moved out, and plugged it in, a cookie kept her logged into both accounts... so viola, I was in. Wanting to get back at her, I logged into her email and Facebook and changed her password, forcing her to contact the different websites and get the passwords set back.
I also printed a lot of correspondence that would show she was still using drugs, lying to me, falsely accusing me of vandalism as well as several other things. I know I now may have gotten myself and the situation in deep trouble and want to know just how bad it could be. I am not going to try and justify what I did any further other than to accept responsibility now for my childish actions, and plan for whats coming next. I do not know when it will come up (during divorce
or even if separate criminal charges may be filed).
So now I am wondering what this is going to do to my chances for keeping custody if she files for a modification to the custody/restraining order or a more permanent solution in probate court. It certainly is harassment and I should have known better to just leave her alone. Did I 'hack' her account, or did I just log in and use it without permission and are the penalties different for each?