More than 8 years ago it was the final day of a divorce
proceeding. The terms of the divorce were written up but the attorney for my wife wanted to put in an addition.
The addition was that my ex would receive 1/2 of the social security benefits for my two sons during the times they lived with me. Residential custody was to be divided in such a way that I would have the boys for one year and my ex would have them for another year. I initialed the "add on" The add on was written by hand.
Now since, soon after, I found that this was illegal and there was mediation
on this and during mediation--it was decided illegal. In any event my ex is bringing this up--saying I owe her many thousands of $. One of my defenses is that while my ex states we had an agreement on this--I deny we ever had such an agreement. Why would I want to enrich my ex at the expenses of my two boys?
[ a side problem is that for years we thought the "add on" read that my ex would get 1/2 of the boys social security benefits while I was custodial parent
and I would get 1/2 when she was custodial parent]\
My question is how to "fight" this representation that we had an agreement? [there are other ways to fight this but for this] --I am interested in how to show this was not some kind of preagreement?