I am a 44yr old white male who is undergoing seperation maintenance from my spouse who I have been married to for 23yrs. Does this mean you are seeking to have her support you? Is this $250/mo ordered by the court, or has she just offered it to you out of kindness?
She had serveed me papers on July 18th. What kind of papers? Divorce? Or is she not divorcing you but seeking support from you?
The papers state that there has been a restraining order against me on the properity that we perchased Aug 12th 2010. My spouse is terminally ill with palmony fibrosis. I'm very sorry, she is dying yet still wants this divorce at this point in time? Is it a divorce she wants?
The seperation happen because I had to be treated for depression at Store-mont vail hospital in late June. Why would she get a restraining order over an illness like depression. Did something else occur, such as violence?
When I was released from hospital I had found my things in the back of my truck. The seperation maint. state that she is to give me $250 a pay period the reson she quoted that is that is the amount 50percent left over after all bills are paid without no sacrifice on there part. Did you review her numbers and determine if they are accurate?
I do not have any funds for my on legal reprcentation my. Where are you living? Did you rent an apartment or a room in a home?
My spouse has recently taken 2 vacations 1 July 15th in Chicago and the other was to miama witch is currently to take my son to a ITS modeling class. THis modeling acting that my 17 year is in involved in has costed over $4000 Including the trip down there. Does that mean you two have savings? Since she only has income of about $1000/mo., she has either charged it on a credit card, or had savings, or was gifted money, right?
I have been informed that this Its from a number people is a money pit witch after spending thousands of dollars is not likely to be chosen. This is likely true, similar to kids playing football religiously through elementary school and highschool, at great expense, with the chances of going pro very, very unlikely. Yet parents and kids still pursue.
I cannot express my opion because I am being acused of being to negative. Why do you care about her characterization of you as being negative. Might you not just be 'realistic' and fiscally prudent, given the current financial straing both she and you are under?
I need some advice As you know from terms of service, I can't give you legal advice because I am not your attorney and I am here to only provide general information and my general thoughts here. Know that you can also consult with an attorney in your own jurisdiction without paying to retain him or her, just paying for a few hours to bat some of these ideas on that you and I can discuss here.
on were I need to go from here because human naturn a judge is going to sympathy with my wife Because she is dying and you are able and working? Unfortunately, I tend to agree with you here. Keep in mind, when she passes, you will have to stand on your own at that time, and it may then be wise to start doing so now, so you are prepared and adept at being self-sufficient come that time. Also, if your wife is not seeking divorce, then you can continue to be on her health insurance, so let me know what is going on - you don't mention at all that she seeks a divorce.
and the bills are going to increase do to my ex-wife lack of nolage in falling into this money pit So long as she is not spending your money, that is likely not an issue. If she IS spending your money, I would consider cutting her off - cancel your credit cards that you have, if she is a user, start putting your paychecks into a SOLE account, not where she can get it, etc.
ITS modeling. Iam going to stop because I more to explain on my finances.I'm here and will check back with you, so feel free to explain more if pertinent.
State/Country relating to question: Kansas
Nothing Because with only getting 250 my wife right now which is suject to change can take half of my retirement and stop me on the family health insurance But didn't you say she was dying? YOu don't have to agree to giving her 1/2 - when you go through the divorce, consider allowing her to have 1/2 contingent on her surviving that long....ergo, you likely will not have to share....and my current employer provides by the coverage is not a good. Consider buying your own coverage, or a supplemental policy. Since she is giving you $250, that should help pay for that.